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In New York, everyone is pretty decisive. People generally walk around this city with a destination, a purpose, and a means of execution. No “ifs,” “ands,” or “buts” about it. Very similar to when a New Yorker goes to the deli counter, and they already know what they want, when they want it, and how they want it [lemme get ham and provolone on a hero, light on the mayo, lettuce, tomatoes, hold the onions, oil and vinegar, cut diagonally, with a coffee, three sugars, and cream on the side….STAT]. If only dating could be this simple…
New York is truly a melting pot! There is no other place where you can have that quirky, forensic scientist girl from Minnesota, the ambitious go-getter from Detroit who’s starting her own marketing company geared towards millennials, the free-spirited, independent filmmaker from Cali, and the wedding planner from Maryland who quit her 9-to-5 to plan weddings full-time in the same room at the same time [a.k.a. Starbucks]. This is one of the aspects that makes this city so great; this is also one of the aspects that makes this city so bad for dating.
New York is a city of many dichotomies. The ridiculously, super-high income versus the low income [a tale of two cities]. Harlem versus Brooklyn. Jay-Z versus Nas [are we still having this debate?]. Yankees versus Mets. First -term Bloomberg versus third-term Bloomberg. Carnegie Deli versus Katz. Westside versus Eastside. Taxi versus livery. Etc.
New York is one of the most straightforward places that a person can live. If a person wants to tell you that your driving stinks, or that you’re an inconsiderate “a-hole” for playing your Dr. Dre Beats so loud on the D-train during rush hour that you can’t hear the cries and curses of the throngs of commuters who are awkwardly trying to let you know that you’re blocking the door as they are trying to enter, they will. People definitely don’t hold back in this town. If only people could be as straightforward and blunt while dating, then maybe we could actually find true love these days instead of wasting our time on people who aren’t really worth the effort.
Have you ever tried to enter the city from any one of the tunnels connecting New York and New Jersey during the morning rush hour? Talk about bottlenecking.
That’s sort of how dating feels these days. It’s like for every one girl, there are at least thirty dudes trying to get at her. I’m talking about Pookie from down the way, casual Stefan, Dominican Lou from the Heights, Curious George from the security department, Postal Worker Jake, Fireman Bill, Jerome with the messed up teeth, John James Preston, the successful financier from Park Avenue, that Turtle dude who drives Vince around the block, and the lonely old man who drives the blue Buick with the extra fly velour seat covers [talk about retro]. With so much competition, you have to be extraordinary to set yourself ahead of the pack these days. Bottlenecking is real.
Just like living in New York City, dating can be so unpredictable.
You’re expecting one thing to happen and the complete opposite happens. Just like living in New York, the unpredictable nature of dating is what makes it most exciting. Though, there are just some things that you’d never, ever expect [in a million years] to occur, and that’s what happened to me last year.
Sometimes finding true love is harder than finding a seat on the A-train during the morning rush hour. It’s not happening without good timing and a little bit of luck. The only major difference is that you will have no problem spotting a seat on the train when it becomes available. On the other hand, love can be looking you right in the face, and you are totally oblivious to it.
The last time I’ve written a blog was approximately two years ago. And a lot has changed for me and my single friends. We’ve loved, we’ve lost love, we’ve dated, we’ve traveled, and some of us have become fashion icons. One thing that hasn’t changed is that we’re all still single and looking to mingle.